HONE YOUR RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
Forgiving, listening, giving, helping, advising, encouraging, sharing, praising e.t.c are all acts that we need to cultivate in relationships. To make our marriages, businesses, family, nation grow stronger we need to hone these skills continually. Since it has been discovered and proved over the years that our fulfillment in life comes more from being at peace with all around us than having material possessions, things would definitely go better for us when we are at peace with our Creator, neighbors, colleagues, friends, business associates e.t.c. than when we are in discord with any of these. Even if we have challenges in acquiring the degrees, owing the properties, e.t.c., encouragement, succor and support we get from our relationships will in a very great extent help us forge ahead in life.
When we have a discordant relationship, our health is going to be affected, I am sure you must have experienced your heart skip each time or most of the times you see someone you are not at peace with. Note that our minds are intricately linked to our bodies. It is then helpful for us to do those things that will enable us live in peace with those around us. We should forgive people, learn how to resolve conflicts, and see things from the other person’s perspective because same diamond looks different from different angles. It is also expedient that we praise people for things done than complain about things not done. Every one needs to be encouraged too, even you need encouragement at times, be the one to encourage the people around, be the one to offer a shoulder for them to lean on. Show kindness; be merciful to those who do not even deserve it.
Call someone today or send an SMS and ask after his or her well being, pay somebody a compliment today, listen attentively to your children, apologise to the one you know is angry with you. You sure know loads of other things to do to make your relationships stronger.
I know that it is not really easy to do these things, but I challenge you today, desire to do them first, then ask your Creator to help you, you will be surprised that you are more capable of living in peace than you think.
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Missed Opportunities
Someone said the adjective ‘poor’ is only an acronym meaning ‘Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly’. The story below only illustrates further this acronym.
A man was travelling along one of the express roads and got the call of nature to ease himself. He stopped by two fuel stations and was not allowed to use their toilets, he was really pressed by the time he got to the third one, so he begged the first person he met frantically, she refused blatantly, this man moved near the second person hoping he would be get help from him and truly the guy allowed him. The first lady got furious and reported the good Samaritan to the boss, I do not know if the boss scolded him or not, but I learnt that the traveler brought out his card, wrote his direct line on the reverse side and gave the young man who helped him saying something like this “anytime you feel like coming to the United Kingdom, do not hesitate to give me a ring”.
Did you gasp? Well I did too when I heard the story. For sure the people the man met and asked for help never knew he is a British citizen (though born a Nigerian), they also did not know that he is a successful immigration lawyer ( a solicitor practicing in England). Had it been they knew they would have treated him differently.
By the way, the lady at the third fuel station professed she was “fasting”. Most of us are just a bunch of Church/Mosque goers who do not follow the tenets of the religion we professed to be “practicing”. We are fond of praying and fasting without doing what we ought to do, somebody says this is abdication of duty, asking God to do what we should do.
John Maxwell said “ The relationships in our lives really do make or break us” I really agree with him, and like to add that we should therefore hone our relationship skills.
I plead with you, be courteous to people, show kindness, you never know who the next person sitting by you is, you do not know his level of influence neither does he know yours. I pray we will not miss opportunities. (There we go again… PRAY)
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
A man was travelling along one of the express roads and got the call of nature to ease himself. He stopped by two fuel stations and was not allowed to use their toilets, he was really pressed by the time he got to the third one, so he begged the first person he met frantically, she refused blatantly, this man moved near the second person hoping he would be get help from him and truly the guy allowed him. The first lady got furious and reported the good Samaritan to the boss, I do not know if the boss scolded him or not, but I learnt that the traveler brought out his card, wrote his direct line on the reverse side and gave the young man who helped him saying something like this “anytime you feel like coming to the United Kingdom, do not hesitate to give me a ring”.
Did you gasp? Well I did too when I heard the story. For sure the people the man met and asked for help never knew he is a British citizen (though born a Nigerian), they also did not know that he is a successful immigration lawyer ( a solicitor practicing in England). Had it been they knew they would have treated him differently.
By the way, the lady at the third fuel station professed she was “fasting”. Most of us are just a bunch of Church/Mosque goers who do not follow the tenets of the religion we professed to be “practicing”. We are fond of praying and fasting without doing what we ought to do, somebody says this is abdication of duty, asking God to do what we should do.
John Maxwell said “ The relationships in our lives really do make or break us” I really agree with him, and like to add that we should therefore hone our relationship skills.
I plead with you, be courteous to people, show kindness, you never know who the next person sitting by you is, you do not know his level of influence neither does he know yours. I pray we will not miss opportunities. (There we go again… PRAY)
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Let’s Give It Up To Them…… Anyhow
Let’s Give It Up To Them…… Anyhow
I read in the papers recently about a young man who threatened to kill his mother, guess his reason? His mother is responsible for his misfortunes. I am sure you have heard this kind of stories because it is common for us in our society to blame our lack of progress on others. Though some do not openly confront their parents, they secretly hold their parents responsible for their challenges. They think things would have been better for them if their parents had sent them to a good/better school, set them up in a trade, help them financially when they were about starting their family. Such is the ill feeling towards parents in some quarters.
It will surprise you too that there is ill feeling on the part of the parents too. I heard a man quarreling with his son the other day, he made bold to say that he could have had it better now in his old day if not for the huge amount he spent on his children’s education. The money spent, he continued, if kept in fixed deposit would have been enough for him to spend for the few years he has on earth or he could have used the money to build a house of his own. This man picked up a quarrel with his son because the young man did not make his father house rent available.
Only the Creator calls the shot as per who our parents turn out to be, in other words the choice of a Parent is one that is decided by the Creator. He alone has the exclusive right to pick who gives birth to who, so there is absolutely nothing we as individuals can do about who our parents are. Some have been lucky to have parents who love and care so much for them, while some have been born to parents who are indifferent about child upbringing, others have parents who abuse and degrade them, few do not even know who their parents are since they were thrown away at birth.
Whichever situation we find ourselves with our parents, I think we should try as much as possible to excuse their excesses and appreciate them; they acted according to their frame of reference and experiences. Some of them never had any one model what role a parent should play in the life of a child, and so they brought us up exactly the way they were brought up ( a child can only be seen not heard). I know how hard it is to appreciate some one who had the wherewithal to educate you formally but refused because you are a girl child, I also know it is difficult to excuse a parent who physically abused you. But for history not to repeat itself, we have to let go.
Please note that your children are looking at the way you are treating your parents, and this is going to be the same way they would treat you some day. I implore you, treat your parents with respect, do not raise your voice against them, treat them the way you want to be treated when you become a parent. If we have taken our children for holiday outside the country severally, let us sacrifice one of those times and take our parents out too, I am sure most parent really wish to visit the Holy lands before they live earth, if we are in a position to do this for them, let us do it. Above all each and every one of us know what our parents like, what they have been dreaming of having, please let us give it to them. Send them short messages, call them, write a letter of appreciation to them, buy them stuffs, and have a time out with them. Whatever you need to do to make them know you love and respect them, do it. In doing all these, you are doing yourself a world of good. You are simply obeying the Creator, honouring your parents, and I tell you, their heart felt prayers for you will go along way.
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
I read in the papers recently about a young man who threatened to kill his mother, guess his reason? His mother is responsible for his misfortunes. I am sure you have heard this kind of stories because it is common for us in our society to blame our lack of progress on others. Though some do not openly confront their parents, they secretly hold their parents responsible for their challenges. They think things would have been better for them if their parents had sent them to a good/better school, set them up in a trade, help them financially when they were about starting their family. Such is the ill feeling towards parents in some quarters.
It will surprise you too that there is ill feeling on the part of the parents too. I heard a man quarreling with his son the other day, he made bold to say that he could have had it better now in his old day if not for the huge amount he spent on his children’s education. The money spent, he continued, if kept in fixed deposit would have been enough for him to spend for the few years he has on earth or he could have used the money to build a house of his own. This man picked up a quarrel with his son because the young man did not make his father house rent available.
Only the Creator calls the shot as per who our parents turn out to be, in other words the choice of a Parent is one that is decided by the Creator. He alone has the exclusive right to pick who gives birth to who, so there is absolutely nothing we as individuals can do about who our parents are. Some have been lucky to have parents who love and care so much for them, while some have been born to parents who are indifferent about child upbringing, others have parents who abuse and degrade them, few do not even know who their parents are since they were thrown away at birth.
Whichever situation we find ourselves with our parents, I think we should try as much as possible to excuse their excesses and appreciate them; they acted according to their frame of reference and experiences. Some of them never had any one model what role a parent should play in the life of a child, and so they brought us up exactly the way they were brought up ( a child can only be seen not heard). I know how hard it is to appreciate some one who had the wherewithal to educate you formally but refused because you are a girl child, I also know it is difficult to excuse a parent who physically abused you. But for history not to repeat itself, we have to let go.
Please note that your children are looking at the way you are treating your parents, and this is going to be the same way they would treat you some day. I implore you, treat your parents with respect, do not raise your voice against them, treat them the way you want to be treated when you become a parent. If we have taken our children for holiday outside the country severally, let us sacrifice one of those times and take our parents out too, I am sure most parent really wish to visit the Holy lands before they live earth, if we are in a position to do this for them, let us do it. Above all each and every one of us know what our parents like, what they have been dreaming of having, please let us give it to them. Send them short messages, call them, write a letter of appreciation to them, buy them stuffs, and have a time out with them. Whatever you need to do to make them know you love and respect them, do it. In doing all these, you are doing yourself a world of good. You are simply obeying the Creator, honouring your parents, and I tell you, their heart felt prayers for you will go along way.
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
Thursday, April 29, 2010
IN NEED OF HELP?
Have you ever heard people say ‘the rich don’t render help to the poor’?
Well, this is a common belief among some people who are always on the look- out for help. They visit different religious circles with the aim of meeting influential people who they feel can help them. In fact their sole aim of associating with this group is to be HELPED. They need help to pay their wards' school fees, house rent e.t.c. Some practically want their rich family members to take care of their children, they belief it is these rich ones' responsibilities to help them give their children education.
When these needs are not met, they call the ones who declined to help all sort of names, saying they were blessed by God to be a blessing but they have refused to bless their own brothers/sisters. They move on to another circle and tell anyone who cares to listen how this other people refused to help people in need.
Truly, we are blessed to be a blessing, but I sincerely feel we should not be responsible for someone else’ irresponsibility.
I am not against seeking for help, after all no man is an island, even our Creator needs our help to reach out to other creatures. All I am advocating is that we should not be the one to receive help always, rather we should also look out for ways to be of help to others.
Look out for people who are in need around you. No matter how lowly you think you are, there are people in dire need of your help. Help a sick neighbor, help a colleague on the job, volunteer your time if you have no money to give, anyhow you can do it , just do it, be the one to help. It will surprise you how people will be ready to help you when you help others too.
Above all the best and most helpful hand you can find around is the one at the end of your arm, so help yourself by being helpful to someone today.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
Well, this is a common belief among some people who are always on the look- out for help. They visit different religious circles with the aim of meeting influential people who they feel can help them. In fact their sole aim of associating with this group is to be HELPED. They need help to pay their wards' school fees, house rent e.t.c. Some practically want their rich family members to take care of their children, they belief it is these rich ones' responsibilities to help them give their children education.
When these needs are not met, they call the ones who declined to help all sort of names, saying they were blessed by God to be a blessing but they have refused to bless their own brothers/sisters. They move on to another circle and tell anyone who cares to listen how this other people refused to help people in need.
Truly, we are blessed to be a blessing, but I sincerely feel we should not be responsible for someone else’ irresponsibility.
I am not against seeking for help, after all no man is an island, even our Creator needs our help to reach out to other creatures. All I am advocating is that we should not be the one to receive help always, rather we should also look out for ways to be of help to others.
Look out for people who are in need around you. No matter how lowly you think you are, there are people in dire need of your help. Help a sick neighbor, help a colleague on the job, volunteer your time if you have no money to give, anyhow you can do it , just do it, be the one to help. It will surprise you how people will be ready to help you when you help others too.
Above all the best and most helpful hand you can find around is the one at the end of your arm, so help yourself by being helpful to someone today.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
Saturday, April 17, 2010
NO IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD, ITS ONLY A PHASE
Have you ever been rejected, disappointed, refused, or disqualified?
You are not alone, others before you have gone through the phase
Many coming after you will still encounter this phase
I doubt if there is any man born of a woman on the face of the earth
Who has never heard the word “NO” several times
Even the rich, who you think can afford all things, do face denial
There is no one in business who has not encountered a NO, also
most men did not get married to the first woman they asked out
Even the Creator says NO to our request at times
We should not allow this two letter word have adverse effect on us,
Let us learn to accept it as a challenge to do better, improve the quality of our work, product, proposal, and even appearance as the case may be
Also remember that we as individuals do say NO to others too, we should critically look at the reasons why we say NO to others, maybe this is also other people’s reasons for saying NO to us too.
Let us teach our children how to handle NO, we should not be seen going about with a long face around the house anytime we are refused a thing.
NO is not the end of the world, it is just an opportunity to look or try elsewhere.
The funny thing is that, you may likely get a yes later from that same place you got a NO earlier.
Even in the English dictionary NO comes before YES, so it is most times in life.
I encourage you today, try again, submit that proposal, make that call again, visit that client again and who knows a YES may be around the corner
Remember, the world’s greatest salesmen have learnt to make NO inspire them, let us learn from them and make NO inspire us too.
You are not alone, others before you have gone through the phase
Many coming after you will still encounter this phase
I doubt if there is any man born of a woman on the face of the earth
Who has never heard the word “NO” several times
Even the rich, who you think can afford all things, do face denial
There is no one in business who has not encountered a NO, also
most men did not get married to the first woman they asked out
Even the Creator says NO to our request at times
We should not allow this two letter word have adverse effect on us,
Let us learn to accept it as a challenge to do better, improve the quality of our work, product, proposal, and even appearance as the case may be
Also remember that we as individuals do say NO to others too, we should critically look at the reasons why we say NO to others, maybe this is also other people’s reasons for saying NO to us too.
Let us teach our children how to handle NO, we should not be seen going about with a long face around the house anytime we are refused a thing.
NO is not the end of the world, it is just an opportunity to look or try elsewhere.
The funny thing is that, you may likely get a yes later from that same place you got a NO earlier.
Even in the English dictionary NO comes before YES, so it is most times in life.
I encourage you today, try again, submit that proposal, make that call again, visit that client again and who knows a YES may be around the corner
Remember, the world’s greatest salesmen have learnt to make NO inspire them, let us learn from them and make NO inspire us too.
Monday, March 22, 2010
FAILURE…… A FRIEND NOT A FIEND.
Someone said your success story is not complete without the failure chapter
Simply put, there is no one who has been successful in any endeavour who has not experienced failure in one form or the other
Even this applies to children while learning to sit, crawl, or walk.
I bet there is no mother who can boldly say my child never fell down during these learning processes
So it is for us in our relationships, businesses or any human enterprise.
In other words, there is no harm in failing...... yes there is no harm in failing once it helps us to move forward
But there is harm in failing and blaming others, there is harm in falling and never rising again
Many people have refused to stand up and move ahead after failing because they have been immersed in the ‘blaming game’
Children blame their parents for not sending them to good schools; Colleagues blame one another for failing as a team
Bosses blame subordinates for the decline in sales volume;
Subordinates in turn blame the bosses
Citizens blame those in the seat of government, followers blame leaders for a failed economy
And guess who the couple blame when their marriage fails? Each other of course.
It is only a brave man that fails and look inward instead of outward, he looks at himself rather than others
He knows that the world paves way for the man who knows where he is going
So, he stands up again, realising that he has just discovered another road that does not lead to success
Determined never to walk that particular road again, he looks for another
And as he walks on the new road, he tells himself that if he fails here too,
Look for another road he must, till he steps on that particular road that will lead him to his journey of success
And since there is greatness within everyone, this man knows that ‘we fail to succeed’
So he takes failure as a friend and not a fiend.
Simply put, there is no one who has been successful in any endeavour who has not experienced failure in one form or the other
Even this applies to children while learning to sit, crawl, or walk.
I bet there is no mother who can boldly say my child never fell down during these learning processes
So it is for us in our relationships, businesses or any human enterprise.
In other words, there is no harm in failing...... yes there is no harm in failing once it helps us to move forward
But there is harm in failing and blaming others, there is harm in falling and never rising again
Many people have refused to stand up and move ahead after failing because they have been immersed in the ‘blaming game’
Children blame their parents for not sending them to good schools; Colleagues blame one another for failing as a team
Bosses blame subordinates for the decline in sales volume;
Subordinates in turn blame the bosses
Citizens blame those in the seat of government, followers blame leaders for a failed economy
And guess who the couple blame when their marriage fails? Each other of course.
It is only a brave man that fails and look inward instead of outward, he looks at himself rather than others
He knows that the world paves way for the man who knows where he is going
So, he stands up again, realising that he has just discovered another road that does not lead to success
Determined never to walk that particular road again, he looks for another
And as he walks on the new road, he tells himself that if he fails here too,
Look for another road he must, till he steps on that particular road that will lead him to his journey of success
And since there is greatness within everyone, this man knows that ‘we fail to succeed’
So he takes failure as a friend and not a fiend.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
BEFORE YOU HELP…………………
In helping others we sometimes find fulfilment, other times we end up being bitter and frustrated
Living the communal life that we have in our society, we are surrounded by people who need our help
People whose bluff we can not call
In fact, we too are caught in the web of asking someone else for assistance
We seek assistance for different issues ranging from accommodation to babysitting
When a distant cousin or an in-law comes to serve in our area under the National Youth Service Corp, our home is automatically the place of abode
Some of us even accommodate people of the same faith, colleagues, friends e.t.c.
Most times when we carry out this act of benevolence we fail to “spell out the terms of residence”
We don’t think of the fact that we are responsible for them once they move in
In the bid to help, we fail to count the cost of having an additional family member, we have forget that our income is still ‘constant’
At the end of the day, we get our fingers burnt, we complain to anyone who care to listen of how the fellow we helped will not help around the house, comes home late, uses milk, toothpaste, water…wastefully
In fact we tell them that this fellow is not searching for his own apartment
Forgetting that at the beginning there were no ground rules, no dos and don’ts, no expiry term for the “residence-hood” (permit me)
Families have been torn apart because of this act of benevolence, some have been given quit notice by their Landlords, while some people have lost their jobs
Please do not get me wrong, it is good to help, in truth there is a reward for helping
But it is also better to sit down and count the cost instead of getting bitter at the end
So I implore you, before you accept to accommodate anyone, lay the rules…… for where there is no law, there is no trespass
Above all ‘think it through ‘
Living the communal life that we have in our society, we are surrounded by people who need our help
People whose bluff we can not call
In fact, we too are caught in the web of asking someone else for assistance
We seek assistance for different issues ranging from accommodation to babysitting
When a distant cousin or an in-law comes to serve in our area under the National Youth Service Corp, our home is automatically the place of abode
Some of us even accommodate people of the same faith, colleagues, friends e.t.c.
Most times when we carry out this act of benevolence we fail to “spell out the terms of residence”
We don’t think of the fact that we are responsible for them once they move in
In the bid to help, we fail to count the cost of having an additional family member, we have forget that our income is still ‘constant’
At the end of the day, we get our fingers burnt, we complain to anyone who care to listen of how the fellow we helped will not help around the house, comes home late, uses milk, toothpaste, water…wastefully
In fact we tell them that this fellow is not searching for his own apartment
Forgetting that at the beginning there were no ground rules, no dos and don’ts, no expiry term for the “residence-hood” (permit me)
Families have been torn apart because of this act of benevolence, some have been given quit notice by their Landlords, while some people have lost their jobs
Please do not get me wrong, it is good to help, in truth there is a reward for helping
But it is also better to sit down and count the cost instead of getting bitter at the end
So I implore you, before you accept to accommodate anyone, lay the rules…… for where there is no law, there is no trespass
Above all ‘think it through ‘
Thursday, February 4, 2010
WHO ARE THE CIVILISED?
Have you ever thought about the ones we can regard as the civilized?
Are they the rich, the sophisticated, the well-dressed man with the white-collar job
Or they are the politicians or those in the corridor of power
Can we say the man that takes his family to fast food restaurants is civilized?
May be those who have been to school and now speak Queen’s English
Yes those who have left the shores of their countries for another are the ones
But…………… let’s take time to think
Can a Professor who does not obey traffic light be called Civilised?
Does civility include fighting and hitting others when annoyed?
What about the sophisticated who has no regard for the Rule of Law
Is the Lawyer who litters the road with his used tissue civilized in your opinion
Then there is the rich who tramples on the right of others,
What about the boss who never admits his mistakes
Are all these examples of civilized beings?
So I can say we are having a re-think about the so-called civilized people
Civility starts with us, We all have to work together to achieve a civilized Nation
No jumping of traffic light, Stop indiscriminate refuse disposal
No jumping of queue in the bank, jamb office, petrol station
The next time you do any of these remember you are an illiterate and uncivilised
So I plead with you, obey laws governing our society,
Let us phase out the 10% syndrome, Be courteous to others,
Let accountability start with us, then let’s demand it from our leaders
Remember, someone who never went to school and does these is civilised
As you do all these and many more, I welcome you to the world of the CIVILISED
Are they the rich, the sophisticated, the well-dressed man with the white-collar job
Or they are the politicians or those in the corridor of power
Can we say the man that takes his family to fast food restaurants is civilized?
May be those who have been to school and now speak Queen’s English
Yes those who have left the shores of their countries for another are the ones
But…………… let’s take time to think
Can a Professor who does not obey traffic light be called Civilised?
Does civility include fighting and hitting others when annoyed?
What about the sophisticated who has no regard for the Rule of Law
Is the Lawyer who litters the road with his used tissue civilized in your opinion
Then there is the rich who tramples on the right of others,
What about the boss who never admits his mistakes
Are all these examples of civilized beings?
So I can say we are having a re-think about the so-called civilized people
Civility starts with us, We all have to work together to achieve a civilized Nation
No jumping of traffic light, Stop indiscriminate refuse disposal
No jumping of queue in the bank, jamb office, petrol station
The next time you do any of these remember you are an illiterate and uncivilised
So I plead with you, obey laws governing our society,
Let us phase out the 10% syndrome, Be courteous to others,
Let accountability start with us, then let’s demand it from our leaders
Remember, someone who never went to school and does these is civilised
As you do all these and many more, I welcome you to the world of the CIVILISED
Monday, January 25, 2010
Courtesy & Appreciation ------ Great Lessons in Relationships
COURTESY & APPRECIATION … GREAT LESSONS IN RELATIONSHIPS
No man is an Island goes a popular saying
We all relate with differs people in our day-to-day activities
Wherever you may go, you meet people, in the bank, office, petrol station
Your social/religious circle, market e.t.c.
Please, pause and think of a place you can go and you need nobody to relate with
May be the grave, which I doubt you want to go now
So while here on earth we need learn how to relate very well with people
Since we all are of different temperament, background, religion, tribe, gender e.t.c
It is of great importance that we use an acceptable language we all can understand
Two of these languages are COURTESY & APPRECIATION,
No matter how difficult a person may look or act, be courteous, show appreciation
I know you must have heard this before, but I implore you to put it into action today
“Thank you for sparing me your precious time”, Kindly help…”
“Please can I …”, “ Sorry to bother you”, “ I wonder what I would have done if not for your timely intervention ”, “ You have made my day” , “ I’m highly grateful to you”….
“Can I know the name of my wonderful customer?” “ Thank you for your patronage”
These and many more would open people’s heart to you, and once you have the heart…..
Every human being craves attention, recognition and importance
No one loves to be looked down upon, scolded, mocked, or made feel inferior
So in your relationship, never looked down upon anyone, esteem the gate man,
Appreciate the cleaner, compliment the driver, and thank the cashier, waiter,
Be couteous to your customers, you are out of business without them
Especially to your immediate family, show appreciation
Like the Yorubas would say “ You dress from home before showing yourself to the world”
No man is an Island goes a popular saying
We all relate with differs people in our day-to-day activities
Wherever you may go, you meet people, in the bank, office, petrol station
Your social/religious circle, market e.t.c.
Please, pause and think of a place you can go and you need nobody to relate with
May be the grave, which I doubt you want to go now
So while here on earth we need learn how to relate very well with people
Since we all are of different temperament, background, religion, tribe, gender e.t.c
It is of great importance that we use an acceptable language we all can understand
Two of these languages are COURTESY & APPRECIATION,
No matter how difficult a person may look or act, be courteous, show appreciation
I know you must have heard this before, but I implore you to put it into action today
“Thank you for sparing me your precious time”, Kindly help…”
“Please can I …”, “ Sorry to bother you”, “ I wonder what I would have done if not for your timely intervention ”, “ You have made my day” , “ I’m highly grateful to you”….
“Can I know the name of my wonderful customer?” “ Thank you for your patronage”
These and many more would open people’s heart to you, and once you have the heart…..
Every human being craves attention, recognition and importance
No one loves to be looked down upon, scolded, mocked, or made feel inferior
So in your relationship, never looked down upon anyone, esteem the gate man,
Appreciate the cleaner, compliment the driver, and thank the cashier, waiter,
Be couteous to your customers, you are out of business without them
Especially to your immediate family, show appreciation
Like the Yorubas would say “ You dress from home before showing yourself to the world”
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