The union between a man and a woman is a strong phenomenon that has been with man since the beginning of creation, it is the strongest union/relationship on earth. No one can explain it but everyone has unique way of expressing the feeling that comes over you when you meet the one you love and express your love to him/her. The euphoria of being in love often leave so many happy and contended at the beginning, one can not just explain it, that feeling you get each time you think about the one you love, seeing or hearing his/her voice causes your heart to leap and your stomach to take a deep bow. If you have experienced it, then you can explain it.
So, after all these at the beginning of 99% of marriage relationships why the sudden change of songs in many marriages? Why the bitterness, the lack of forgiveness, the hatred and then the divorce? All these feelings are allowed to build up overtimes, mistrust here and there, misguided statements, selfishness, esteeming self above the relationship, pride, arrogance, e.t.c. all contribute to separation or divorce. At this stage people forget the good old days, they forget the beginning, and especially the vows made, not even the children are given consideration. The purpose of this write up is not to use a sledge hammer on those already involved in divorce please, it is to offer help to those who are still together, those who are considering reconciliation, those who want to start afresh, and any one who will eventually take a plunge into the world of the married.
There are little things that make all the difference in a marriage, doing them daily become habits and these habits in turn strengthen marriages. We are examining some of these tips today and we will consider others subsequently. But let me sound a cautious note please, DOING these things is key, not just KNOWING them. I am sure by the time you are through reading this piece you will discover you know all of these things, but sincerely ask yourself do you do them? Or how often do you do them? I encourage you to do them and encourage your spouse too, hmmmmm …… I did not say nag your spouse into doing them please, just encourage them. Do not give up if they find it strange at the beginning (especially for couples who have been married for sometimes now) keep at it and I bet they will soon catch the bug.
1. Eat together : No matter how busy the two of you are try and take at least a meal together daily. So many things happen when you eat together, you are bound to look at each other, you talk, your hands collide, you touch, e.t.c. All these are good for a marriage relationship, they help you bond, and I tell you scarcely will any marriage survive without a bond between the two parties.
2. Play together: Sounds funny, playing is for children I hear someone say, good, don’t you cherish your childhood? Those days you had fun with your friends on the field, in your garage, at the school play ground? Some of us remember the things we did then and smile leaving others to wonder where we have gone in our memories. Play games together with your spouse, play a fast one on your kids together, be mischievous with your children, your friends e.t.c. Solve puzzles together.
Lets take a pause here, we will continue next week by God’s grace. In the mean time, I encourage you to practice these two tips. I am sure you will enjoy them. Your marriage will blissful.
Dupe Oteri
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