IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE, IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE

Read, Practise and Please send to your married friends, I hope it blesses your marriage in Jesus Name.


IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE, IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE

As you read this, thousands of couples would be making love just like millions more are eating or drinking water. So what is the big deal about this three letter word that seems to make the world spin, it makes people’s world spin too individually you know. While others enjoy it, others endure it, while some have jeopardized their destinies by engaging in it, others have found their destinies by engaging in it. The latter did in the only context made available for it by the only Wise One, God our Creator, that is the context of MARRIAGE, I mean marriage between a man and a woman as it happened from the beginning.

Sex should be a beautiful experience when done God’s way, I will say it’s the most satisfying experience any married couple can and should experience together. Its enjoyment solidifies a marriage that you wonder if this couple ever quarrels, while enduring it will eventually create friction sooner or later in a marriage relationship.

Let’s see how we can make it work for us instead of against us. I pray the Holy Spirit inspires you as you read.


1. Tell God about it: Does this sound funny? Maybe, but since His word says He cares for You, (and His word is the truest word ever) then I think you should take it to Him in prayer, tell Him exactly how you feel about yourself and even about your spouse, tell Him you want to give your spouse pleasure in all things, sex inclusive, ask Him for help. I tell you He knows how to help you, He has millions of ways to do it. For example if one of the partners does not like talking about it and it is an area of challenge for them, after the other partner must have prayed, God could lead the one who does not like talking about it to read a particular book, visit a couple that will talk about it, or create the desire to talk about it in this person. Don’t let’s even chatter about how He will do it for He knows just what to do.
Also ask for forgiveness for any other mistake you have made in that aspect of your life, believe He has forgiven you and forgive yourself also.

2. Talk extensively about it with your spouse: The man and his wife were naked and were not ashamed……. Says God in His manual for living (the Bible). It is better you have a discussion about it lovingly and let your spouse know what you want, how you want it e.t.c. I understand that this may seem difficult for a lady in the African culture, but remember you are a Christian first before an African and the more you talk about it the better and more open you feel. So I implore you summon up the courage, talk about it. In fact you will be surprised that your spouse too is willing to talk about it if you take the initiative.

3. Get and Use Materials on the topic: Read books like ‘Acts of Marriage by Tim and Beverly Lahaye’, Made for Pleasure, there are so many good books on the shelf on this issue, and they have helped so many couples. It is better if the two of you read them together, invest time in your marriage by setting at least some minutes apart to read to each other before retiring for bed, if not all days pick some days in the week and improve yourself. Also Listen to tapes and attend marriage seminars together. Most of us get materials on wealth creation e.t.c. but we refuse to invest in materials that can help us improve our marriages. After making all the money we desire I am sure we want to spend it together with our family, especially our spouse because the children will eventually leave home leaving us …. So what happens next? It is wise then to invest in this all important aspect of our lives.

4. Spend quality time together away from distractions: Most couples are careful not to be noticed when making love, for God’s sake you are married and it is a duty you owe each other. Lock your doors from distractions; let anyone (including your children) who comes into your room knock before entering. You should take time out once in a while to really explore and savor your love making. Get away from that five minutes thing and get down to real business. Where will we put the children? I hear you say, drop them at your friends or grannies for once.

5. Try it outside your home: I know some see vacation as an expensive thing to do, I dare say you can plan it to fit your pocket. You don’t need to jet off to Hawaii, start with your state, if giving your partner pleasure is so important to you, then I say it is worth saving towards, if you need to get a piggy’s bank for it, do it. I challenge you to put something aside daily for the next 6 months, let’s see --- N100 for the next 6 month (180 days) is what …… N18,000.00. It looks small but it can do something for a night, start with your state, check out a hotel you can afford, go there with your spouse and improve your life. I am sure you won’t lack ideas (you can send an email to me for more ideas – relateandlive@yahoo.com).

6. Take care of your health: Exercise regularly to keep your energy level up and allow blood flow freely to every part of your body. Bad breath and fetid odor can kill off sexual desire in any man or woman. I implore you to take care of your look also. Please ma, do not carry that hairstyle for too long, loose it before it starts giving off offensive odour. Let’s invest in the way we smell (fresh and clean is the rule of the game), apart from boosting sex desires in our spouse, it boosts our own self confidence too. I advise that we ladies choose our beauty products carefully, avoid anyone your spouse complain about and encourage him to tell you the ones he likes. Men too should be sensitive to the needs of their wives, some women love clean shaven men, while others do not mind you grooming your beards, whatever she loves, please do, your reward, you will not loose by doing this. All under wears should be washed and not soaked unreasonably; they give unpleasant odour and also breed germs if left uncared for.

TO BE CONTINUED………………………………
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