IN NEED OF HELP?

Have you ever heard people say ‘the rich don’t render help to the poor’?
Well, this is a common belief among some people who are always on the look- out for help. They visit different religious circles with the aim of meeting influential people who they feel can help them. In fact their sole aim of associating with this group is to be HELPED. They need help to pay their wards' school fees, house rent e.t.c. Some practically want their rich family members to take care of their children, they belief it is these rich ones' responsibilities to help them give their children education.
When these needs are not met, they call the ones who declined to help all sort of names, saying they were blessed by God to be a blessing but they have refused to bless their own brothers/sisters. They move on to another circle and tell anyone who cares to listen how this other people refused to help people in need.
Truly, we are blessed to be a blessing, but I sincerely feel we should not be responsible for someone else’ irresponsibility.
I am not against seeking for help, after all no man is an island, even our Creator needs our help to reach out to other creatures. All I am advocating is that we should not be the one to receive help always, rather we should also look out for ways to be of help to others.
Look out for people who are in need around you. No matter how lowly you think you are, there are people in dire need of your help. Help a sick neighbor, help a colleague on the job, volunteer your time if you have no money to give, anyhow you can do it , just do it, be the one to help. It will surprise you how people will be ready to help you when you help others too.
Above all the best and most helpful hand you can find around is the one at the end of your arm, so help yourself by being helpful to someone today.

Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com

NO IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD, ITS ONLY A PHASE

Have you ever been rejected, disappointed, refused, or disqualified?
You are not alone, others before you have gone through the phase
Many coming after you will still encounter this phase
I doubt if there is any man born of a woman on the face of the earth
Who has never heard the word “NO” several times
Even the rich, who you think can afford all things, do face denial
There is no one in business who has not encountered a NO, also
most men did not get married to the first woman they asked out
Even the Creator says NO to our request at times
We should not allow this two letter word have adverse effect on us,
Let us learn to accept it as a challenge to do better, improve the quality of our work, product, proposal, and even appearance as the case may be
Also remember that we as individuals do say NO to others too, we should critically look at the reasons why we say NO to others, maybe this is also other people’s reasons for saying NO to us too.
Let us teach our children how to handle NO, we should not be seen going about with a long face around the house anytime we are refused a thing.
NO is not the end of the world, it is just an opportunity to look or try elsewhere.
The funny thing is that, you may likely get a yes later from that same place you got a NO earlier.
Even in the English dictionary NO comes before YES, so it is most times in life.
I encourage you today, try again, submit that proposal, make that call again, visit that client again and who knows a YES may be around the corner
Remember, the world’s greatest salesmen have learnt to make NO inspire them, let us learn from them and make NO inspire us too.