HONE YOUR RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
Forgiving, listening, giving, helping, advising, encouraging, sharing, praising e.t.c are all acts that we need to cultivate in relationships. To make our marriages, businesses, family, nation grow stronger we need to hone these skills continually. Since it has been discovered and proved over the years that our fulfillment in life comes more from being at peace with all around us than having material possessions, things would definitely go better for us when we are at peace with our Creator, neighbors, colleagues, friends, business associates e.t.c. than when we are in discord with any of these. Even if we have challenges in acquiring the degrees, owing the properties, e.t.c., encouragement, succor and support we get from our relationships will in a very great extent help us forge ahead in life.
When we have a discordant relationship, our health is going to be affected, I am sure you must have experienced your heart skip each time or most of the times you see someone you are not at peace with. Note that our minds are intricately linked to our bodies. It is then helpful for us to do those things that will enable us live in peace with those around us. We should forgive people, learn how to resolve conflicts, and see things from the other person’s perspective because same diamond looks different from different angles. It is also expedient that we praise people for things done than complain about things not done. Every one needs to be encouraged too, even you need encouragement at times, be the one to encourage the people around, be the one to offer a shoulder for them to lean on. Show kindness; be merciful to those who do not even deserve it.
Call someone today or send an SMS and ask after his or her well being, pay somebody a compliment today, listen attentively to your children, apologise to the one you know is angry with you. You sure know loads of other things to do to make your relationships stronger.
I know that it is not really easy to do these things, but I challenge you today, desire to do them first, then ask your Creator to help you, you will be surprised that you are more capable of living in peace than you think.
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Missed Opportunities
Someone said the adjective ‘poor’ is only an acronym meaning ‘Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly’. The story below only illustrates further this acronym.
A man was travelling along one of the express roads and got the call of nature to ease himself. He stopped by two fuel stations and was not allowed to use their toilets, he was really pressed by the time he got to the third one, so he begged the first person he met frantically, she refused blatantly, this man moved near the second person hoping he would be get help from him and truly the guy allowed him. The first lady got furious and reported the good Samaritan to the boss, I do not know if the boss scolded him or not, but I learnt that the traveler brought out his card, wrote his direct line on the reverse side and gave the young man who helped him saying something like this “anytime you feel like coming to the United Kingdom, do not hesitate to give me a ring”.
Did you gasp? Well I did too when I heard the story. For sure the people the man met and asked for help never knew he is a British citizen (though born a Nigerian), they also did not know that he is a successful immigration lawyer ( a solicitor practicing in England). Had it been they knew they would have treated him differently.
By the way, the lady at the third fuel station professed she was “fasting”. Most of us are just a bunch of Church/Mosque goers who do not follow the tenets of the religion we professed to be “practicing”. We are fond of praying and fasting without doing what we ought to do, somebody says this is abdication of duty, asking God to do what we should do.
John Maxwell said “ The relationships in our lives really do make or break us” I really agree with him, and like to add that we should therefore hone our relationship skills.
I plead with you, be courteous to people, show kindness, you never know who the next person sitting by you is, you do not know his level of influence neither does he know yours. I pray we will not miss opportunities. (There we go again… PRAY)
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
A man was travelling along one of the express roads and got the call of nature to ease himself. He stopped by two fuel stations and was not allowed to use their toilets, he was really pressed by the time he got to the third one, so he begged the first person he met frantically, she refused blatantly, this man moved near the second person hoping he would be get help from him and truly the guy allowed him. The first lady got furious and reported the good Samaritan to the boss, I do not know if the boss scolded him or not, but I learnt that the traveler brought out his card, wrote his direct line on the reverse side and gave the young man who helped him saying something like this “anytime you feel like coming to the United Kingdom, do not hesitate to give me a ring”.
Did you gasp? Well I did too when I heard the story. For sure the people the man met and asked for help never knew he is a British citizen (though born a Nigerian), they also did not know that he is a successful immigration lawyer ( a solicitor practicing in England). Had it been they knew they would have treated him differently.
By the way, the lady at the third fuel station professed she was “fasting”. Most of us are just a bunch of Church/Mosque goers who do not follow the tenets of the religion we professed to be “practicing”. We are fond of praying and fasting without doing what we ought to do, somebody says this is abdication of duty, asking God to do what we should do.
John Maxwell said “ The relationships in our lives really do make or break us” I really agree with him, and like to add that we should therefore hone our relationship skills.
I plead with you, be courteous to people, show kindness, you never know who the next person sitting by you is, you do not know his level of influence neither does he know yours. I pray we will not miss opportunities. (There we go again… PRAY)
Remember, you begin to live when you begin to relate truly.
Dupe Oteri
dupeoteri@gmail.com
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