Chinedu opened his email that morning to meet the
best news of his life in that year, he finally got his dream job, ……… reading
downwards…….. the job came with an official apartment in Ikeja Governmnet
Residential Area. He wept for joy! At last! At last!! At last!!! He kept saying
‘at last’. The ‘at last’ is not because of the job, but the official apartment
and more importantly the location, Ikeja GRA.
He decided not to communicate the good
news to his wife via the phone, he would wait till he gets home. At home, he
gave her the letter, and the first thing she said was ‘’at last’’ . . . . . . . They both went down memory lane of how
they got the revelation that they will live in GRA, how they went in search of
a two bedroom apartment in GRA after their first child, how disappointed they
were when they found out their financial status as at the time is not at par
with the rent paid in GRA . . . . .how they bound, loose, fasted, trusted,
confessed and oh what not. . . . . . . still GRA refused them residence’ status until that morning. They
had a good laugh.
Five years later, they bought a 3 bdr
bungalow in GRA (on mortgage).It took them 17 years after the revelation of
their living in GRA to live there, 22 years to eventually own a property there,
Yes! God has promised every one of us
a bright future, yes! We all have dreams; yes! our pastors have told us to have
big plans, yes! They are all good………….. let’s pause here, I am not writing to
kill your dreams, or ambition, I am not telling you to aim low, I am not saying you should not dream big,
rather I am encouraging you ‘to take life one step at a time’ else you end up
in frustration and call God who showed you the end (right from the beginning) a
liar. Far from it, He can not lie.
He promised to supply all your NEEDS
not your fantasies, trust me He knows what you need per time, He has also
promised to never leave nor forsake you, He says He will not withhold any good thing
from you, He knows you need to build character to sustain you where He is
taking you to, use the waiting period to develop yourself.
So if that brand new car is not
showing up please get the Tokunbo (fairly used) car that you can afford, you
will be surprised how the Tokunbo car will serve you and give you no problem
with the mechanic.
If your finances combined with your
fiancée’ own can not uphold a talk of the town wedding, please have a talk of
‘the compound wedding’ and stop comparing yourself with your colleague whose
mum is a bank director, his dad a politician, his older siblings are in Canada
with good jobs. You and I know that you are the alpha and omega of your clan.
He knows what you need……….
If your husband salary combined with yours can
not pay a term fees in ‘a high class school’ please settle for a school of
quality with low fees, ask God to direct you to that school that your child
needs, do not put yourself and your spouse under unnecessary pressure. He knows
what you need………………
You desire a 3bedroom apartment, but
you need a loan to rent, still need a loan to continually make yearly payment?
I do not think you NEED it for NOW, look for 2bedroom mbok! And make it a HOME while trusting God for
that 3bed sometimes near in the future, remember you have 2 children, one of
them is already in a boarding house………… the third room which is an extra can
attract a pedophile to your home, who knows maybe that is what He is saving you
from, You doubt it? Some children are abused by those living with their parents
in the third room (visitor’s room) maybe it would not have happened if they
come from the village and see there is no space to live, maybe they would have
gone to rent a room on their own. Do not get me wrong, I am not saying you
should not accommodate people in NEED……………………He will supply what you need……..…
Accepting your reality no matter how
bad it maybe is the first step to changing your reality- @themarriagebed. It is not worth it to end up frustrated.
And our Pastors, let us stop equating
glamorous living with holy living. Statements like ‘My God is a brand new God,
so I cannot drive anything less than brand new’ is not encouraging for a new
graduate who your ‘god’ help ‘land’ a civil service job of 75k monthly, even if
he does not touch his salary for 5 years he cannot buy a brand new car with his
own money, except he is given, he steals it, cuts corner in his office, or has
a part time business. The first option, can you, his Pastor give him?
................. I remember that Mama Funke Felix-Adejumo said during a
women’s programe that she bought gold for the first time that year , this is
not up to 5years in 2017, lets even say its five years, a woman of that grace
getting her first gold in 2012? Some of us with 100 ‘sheep’ are already tasking
them to buy us gold……………
Pardon me if this sounds like your
pastor, but the truth be told, we cannot fight corruption to a minimal level
without addressing this basic issue of our wanting God to supply our wants
instead of needs in Nigeria.
There are always alternatives, if you
cannot buy afford human hair buy synthetic abeg, if you can not afford croaker
go for titus, if titus is beyond reach settle for sawa…….it is protein you
NEED.
When you receive a revelation from
God, be thankful, rejoice, then go to work and give it time….. remember Abraham,
David, Joseph, Zacharia & Elizabeth………. And more…….THEY WAITED……
Like Prof Osibanjo said ‘ fara
bale…..’ meaning ‘calm down,,,,’.
Everything good will come.
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